This is the time of the year that most parents are breathing a sigh of relief that school has once again opened its doors to their demon spawn. I would be lying if I said I won't also appreciate having more time to myself. I have to say though that I will also miss her .
Granted there are some days that I ask myself if I gave birth to a sloth with a hearing impediment. Do all parents have to repeat everything 4 times or is it just the octave used on the 4th try that I have to learn to use on the 1st? If you know, PLEASE TELL ME!
I thought that her room had a floor when I bought this house....oh wait..THERE IS!...just can't see it but for all her stuff covering every square inch of it. I swear, if we hung a hamper on a teens neck with a lock they would still not use it for what its for. I have started to believe that teen clothes actually have an imbedded hamper repelling substance that makes it physically impossible for said teens to comply . I really have to get my chemist bf Chris to find the antidote...OMG WE WOULD BECOME RICH!!
Let us not forget the constant drive to learn our teens have in faithfully participating in home made science projects in their rooms....oh wait ...wrong again..those are DIRTY DISHES! whose fate is either to take over the world or break from the high pitched scream heard from my wrath caused by seeing said MONSTOCITY in the same place for the last 3 days!
Need I mentions the constant renegotiations worthy of a world summit pertaining to the freedoms and liberties act thus drafted in triplicette , signed by witnesses and put in a strong box incase of invasion? I have held strong to clause 4b. Teen will not have internet privileges on school nights , and clause 7c. Teen will only have authority superseding parent in the week of 3 Thursdays.
We can all bitch and gripe ofcourse but we were all that age once ourselves. Sure sure we were never as bad. They also have it so easy compared to us. It's not like she has to walk 3 miles to school in the snow barefoot...while churning butter...wearing holy socks in need darning, as mittens....and forget not that special time of the month when we had to wear a mini mattress between our legs held by a skin pinching elastic belt that helped only to make the mattress tails, ride up your ass crack and make walking so much easier...ya right.
All jokes aside...I have to say I have a good kid. My daughter is a caring, sensitive person with a wicked sense of humour. I really like her personality...u may think...ofcourse you do, it is your child...I agree that as moms we love our children no matter what..that however does not mean we like the personality they were born with..I have friends that have said asmuch. I am thankfull she is a very likable person.
Almost 14 she has begun the journey of womanhood and has already started blooming into a distinctly unique person. I admire her quest to not follow the mainstream in style , opting instead to find her own thing. Mainstream is fine for most and often far easier to just blend in. My daughter chooses instead a mixture of what some would call a cross between goth and punk lol.Not easy in a small town outside of Montreal keep in mind.
Niether being over the top, I have to appreciate the artistry of it. I have even dyed her hair candy red with black etc but yet again its not over the top. I figure as a parent if I encourage , colaborate and enjoy her quest in defining her own style, chances are she won't need to become a total FREAK like some when they get older. Many had parents who didn't atleast try to understand a need to indentify themselves and/or just want to be different from others........That is my theory and I am sticking to it........Having said all that I now decree it to be a SCHOOL DAY!!!!
Tuesday, August 31, 2004
Wednesday, August 25, 2004
Real Friends Don't Let Friends..............
I felt the need to address something someone wrote about friendship......
*friends dont judge each other they accept each other and their faults*
I do understand to a point what they are saying , please don't get me wrong..friends are to be loved and charished and appreciated...having said that friends are also the ones we can care enough about, to step in and NOT ACCEPT SOME OF THEIR FAULTS...let me give some examples;
-had a friend not come to my aid and just let me do what Iwanted when I was 19 and stupidly try to commit suicide...I would be dead now.
-had I not sat a friend down and said,,WTF are u doing? your on a path of self distruction...and hurt for everyone around you! I do sincerely believe that person would be either dead or a shell of themselves today.....and has said asmuch.
-had I and countless other friends not removed the keys to the cars of our friends who had too much to drink...??? Wonder how many lives were spared because of it.
-had my best friend listened to my FORCED OPINION overcountless yrs about going to the doc and getting her pap test? SHE WOULD BE ALIVE TODAY
I could come up with alot of general examples but these among others are my own personal ones......are they a manner of judging?Yes absolutely! If I thought a friend was in trouble by their own choice...would I try to help and be there to pick up the pieces? Yes absolutely! Do these subjects deal with FORCED OPINIONS on others? Yes they do...but then if we shouldn't ever do that....What would be of the forced opinions about the WOMAN'S RIGHT TO VOTE, ABOLISHING SLAVERY, BASIC CIVIL RIGHTS, APARTHEID, and many others....Aren't all of these things faught for and won, by ppl who forced their opinions on others? ....
I realize I have digressed somewhat from this persons original idea about friendship...but isn't it all somewhat related? I would pray that any friend of mine would CARE enough about me to call me on something I did...or am doing. I know that a stranger certainly wouldn't do it...............
*friends dont judge each other they accept each other and their faults*
I do understand to a point what they are saying , please don't get me wrong..friends are to be loved and charished and appreciated...having said that friends are also the ones we can care enough about, to step in and NOT ACCEPT SOME OF THEIR FAULTS...let me give some examples;
-had a friend not come to my aid and just let me do what Iwanted when I was 19 and stupidly try to commit suicide...I would be dead now.
-had I not sat a friend down and said,,WTF are u doing? your on a path of self distruction...and hurt for everyone around you! I do sincerely believe that person would be either dead or a shell of themselves today.....and has said asmuch.
-had I and countless other friends not removed the keys to the cars of our friends who had too much to drink...??? Wonder how many lives were spared because of it.
-had my best friend listened to my FORCED OPINION overcountless yrs about going to the doc and getting her pap test? SHE WOULD BE ALIVE TODAY
I could come up with alot of general examples but these among others are my own personal ones......are they a manner of judging?Yes absolutely! If I thought a friend was in trouble by their own choice...would I try to help and be there to pick up the pieces? Yes absolutely! Do these subjects deal with FORCED OPINIONS on others? Yes they do...but then if we shouldn't ever do that....What would be of the forced opinions about the WOMAN'S RIGHT TO VOTE, ABOLISHING SLAVERY, BASIC CIVIL RIGHTS, APARTHEID, and many others....Aren't all of these things faught for and won, by ppl who forced their opinions on others? ....
I realize I have digressed somewhat from this persons original idea about friendship...but isn't it all somewhat related? I would pray that any friend of mine would CARE enough about me to call me on something I did...or am doing. I know that a stranger certainly wouldn't do it...............
Tuesday, August 24, 2004
MORAL....TABOO????
It used to be that one must never talk of Religion or Politics but it would seem we should add another topic to the TABOO list under the heading or headings of Moral Responsability, Good Example, Doing the Right Thing or just Choosing the High Road.
These seem to be outdated, outlandish and outradious concepts these days. We have no problem talking about sex , asking for sex, asking about sex ,,,and I am no exeption to that. We are freely willing to answer silly tests that ask questions like...how many lovers have u had at the same time or have u licked ass or have u ever praticed bondage or had anal sex...the list goes on with many more questions I won't begin to repeat lol....seems no one minds answering all these. For the most part in search of the magic number that determines your *freakness, *curruptness or plain ordinaryness lol. Heck I have done them all myself and according to most I can be a super freak lol...the point I am trying to make is why is it so acceptable to talk about such intimate, private, maybe even decedent things yet ,introduce the subject of basic morals and OMG THE SHIT WILL HIT THE FAN.
I say this because those who know me and my partner, also know he recently posted a general but very opinionated letter to a group we belong to. He was courageous enough to state his thoughts about all the crap he has seen and heard about some ppl we know and just some in general....niether one of us is religious...so we aren't bible quoting pions...as a matter of fact he is athiest where as I have my own faith in something greater then me, just not sure what.
His point , although rather heated at the time of the post , was just frustation and disappointment directed towards the more and more prevalent lack of moral bahaviour among us. God forbid pointing out the sad fact of ppl having romantic cyber relationships while still married...or physically cheating on your significant other...basically the same thing as far as I am concerned...(both are intimate actions with someone other then their partner). Lets not forget all the lies being maintained to pull it off. ......WOW..he was quoted the bible lol..by someone apparently offended..thats ironic isn't it. Let he who hasn't sinned cast the first stone...funny I told him that this quote would be used against him even before he sent his post. I am the first to admit we have both sinned and made mistakes a fair share in our lives. Isn't the point to learning and growing, a way to try and make less mistakes and be better people? Not repeat bad actions of the past? Or reaccess what we are doing to eachother in the now? What happened to being a good example or making better choices . Why has it become something to be linged for... how dare you have an opinion on ppl doing the wrong thing. How dare it make someone actually take a step back and look at it for what its worth. How dare u NOT validate reprehensible behavior with all kinds of excuses. ....so if you get away with it, that makes it right? ...someone even said..the net ISN'T REALITY...I almost fell off my chair lmao..wonder if that persons ancestor thought the first conversation on the telephone was actually angels on the other end. Technology makes interaction different certainly but that doesn't make the persons on the other side of the computer any less REAL. ...Heck what happened to fidelity , truth, common sense, acting with pride and honor? Do we stop teaching these things to our children ? Or is it DO AS I SAY NOT AS I DO?..As someone pointed out..what others do with their lives is up to them, if it doesn't affect you it's non of your concern. I can understand that point of view...its all over the place..its the same one that causes a women to be raped and no one comes to her rescue. It is also the cause of security in our schools. How does one explain to a child why their parent drinks to oblivion infront of them and is mortified to see then on the carpet drooling (I have tryed in my nieces case and its not doable) ...Let us not be so crass as to actually stop a person from committing suicide..wouldnt that be considered inforcing our opinion on their choice? Isn't our whole society based on laws and values? How often do u hear of *kids these days* have no idea what respect is or manners...isn't all that loosly based on the same ethics of behavior? What happened to actually making the changes needed in your life to make it better? Is it a now foreign concept to pick up and start over if u are so unhappy ...hell I know its not easy but if your not where u want to be chances are the other person in your life isn't to thrilled either. Isn't that better for everyone concerned including children to set a better example? So many have their * reasons* or should I say excuses? But yes I do know there are exeptions to every rule but there are safe houses and shelters and slavery was outlawed many yrs ago. Do u get my point? Maybe not and maybe so...if it has helped to ignite a lightbulb moment, this was all worth it and if its all been for not then
I must be totally wrong about all of it if so many ppl got so offended by the few things stated above... I guess the lessons learned in the new society are immediate satifaction, lets not be resposible for our actions, lets blame the next guy or better yet , let's shoot the messenger rather then ask ourselves why the message offends us?
These seem to be outdated, outlandish and outradious concepts these days. We have no problem talking about sex , asking for sex, asking about sex ,,,and I am no exeption to that. We are freely willing to answer silly tests that ask questions like...how many lovers have u had at the same time or have u licked ass or have u ever praticed bondage or had anal sex...the list goes on with many more questions I won't begin to repeat lol....seems no one minds answering all these. For the most part in search of the magic number that determines your *freakness, *curruptness or plain ordinaryness lol. Heck I have done them all myself and according to most I can be a super freak lol...the point I am trying to make is why is it so acceptable to talk about such intimate, private, maybe even decedent things yet ,introduce the subject of basic morals and OMG THE SHIT WILL HIT THE FAN.
I say this because those who know me and my partner, also know he recently posted a general but very opinionated letter to a group we belong to. He was courageous enough to state his thoughts about all the crap he has seen and heard about some ppl we know and just some in general....niether one of us is religious...so we aren't bible quoting pions...as a matter of fact he is athiest where as I have my own faith in something greater then me, just not sure what.
His point , although rather heated at the time of the post , was just frustation and disappointment directed towards the more and more prevalent lack of moral bahaviour among us. God forbid pointing out the sad fact of ppl having romantic cyber relationships while still married...or physically cheating on your significant other...basically the same thing as far as I am concerned...(both are intimate actions with someone other then their partner). Lets not forget all the lies being maintained to pull it off. ......WOW..he was quoted the bible lol..by someone apparently offended..thats ironic isn't it. Let he who hasn't sinned cast the first stone...funny I told him that this quote would be used against him even before he sent his post. I am the first to admit we have both sinned and made mistakes a fair share in our lives. Isn't the point to learning and growing, a way to try and make less mistakes and be better people? Not repeat bad actions of the past? Or reaccess what we are doing to eachother in the now? What happened to being a good example or making better choices . Why has it become something to be linged for... how dare you have an opinion on ppl doing the wrong thing. How dare it make someone actually take a step back and look at it for what its worth. How dare u NOT validate reprehensible behavior with all kinds of excuses. ....so if you get away with it, that makes it right? ...someone even said..the net ISN'T REALITY...I almost fell off my chair lmao..wonder if that persons ancestor thought the first conversation on the telephone was actually angels on the other end. Technology makes interaction different certainly but that doesn't make the persons on the other side of the computer any less REAL. ...Heck what happened to fidelity , truth, common sense, acting with pride and honor? Do we stop teaching these things to our children ? Or is it DO AS I SAY NOT AS I DO?..As someone pointed out..what others do with their lives is up to them, if it doesn't affect you it's non of your concern. I can understand that point of view...its all over the place..its the same one that causes a women to be raped and no one comes to her rescue. It is also the cause of security in our schools. How does one explain to a child why their parent drinks to oblivion infront of them and is mortified to see then on the carpet drooling (I have tryed in my nieces case and its not doable) ...Let us not be so crass as to actually stop a person from committing suicide..wouldnt that be considered inforcing our opinion on their choice? Isn't our whole society based on laws and values? How often do u hear of *kids these days* have no idea what respect is or manners...isn't all that loosly based on the same ethics of behavior? What happened to actually making the changes needed in your life to make it better? Is it a now foreign concept to pick up and start over if u are so unhappy ...hell I know its not easy but if your not where u want to be chances are the other person in your life isn't to thrilled either. Isn't that better for everyone concerned including children to set a better example? So many have their * reasons* or should I say excuses? But yes I do know there are exeptions to every rule but there are safe houses and shelters and slavery was outlawed many yrs ago. Do u get my point? Maybe not and maybe so...if it has helped to ignite a lightbulb moment, this was all worth it and if its all been for not then
I must be totally wrong about all of it if so many ppl got so offended by the few things stated above... I guess the lessons learned in the new society are immediate satifaction, lets not be resposible for our actions, lets blame the next guy or better yet , let's shoot the messenger rather then ask ourselves why the message offends us?
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